How do you develop your social skills

Promote social skills

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A newborn baby could not survive without the people to look after it and meet its needs. The social skills that are needed to ensure his survival are therefore inherent in him. For example, they can express basic needs and are able to establish a secure bond with their closest caregivers. The foundation for living together with other people was laid from the start, but there is still a lot to learn in this area over the coming years.

But what actually is social competence? The Duden defines the term as the "ability of a person to act independently in their social environment". This means, among other things, that you are able to live with others to meet your own needs and achieve goals. But this is only one side of the coin, because if you only focus on yourself, you can quickly make yourself unpopular. It is therefore also part of social competence to take into account the needs and goals of others. It encompasses a wide range of social skills that are used in the community, for example:

  • make contact
  • imitate others or show them something
  • share something
  • empathize with the point of view of others
  • develop ideas together and work out something
  • adhere to rules that make it easier to live together
  • motivate someone
  • solve conflicts
  • To take responsibility
  • helping each other, etc.

Many of these skills are learned and trained in everyday family life. Here are a few ideas on how you can support your child's social development:

  • Your child learns more from what you set than from what you say. If you maintain a loving and respectful relationship in the family, this will have a positive impact on your child. You will learn how to maintain friendships, resolve conflicts, deal with mistakes, apologize, or show someone that you like him or her.
  • In everyday family life, children experience that there are certain rules that must be adhered to and that there are consequences if they are disregarded. Learning to do this is extremely important, because wherever people come together, the child encounters rules and regulations, whether on the road, in kindergarten or on the playground.
  • Respect the boundaries your child sets. This is especially true for touch. For example, if he likes to be hugged but doesn't want to be kissed, adults have to accept it. This is how the child learns that they have a right to say no.
  • Do small jobs together: bake cakes, plant something in the garden, repair an object, etc. Your child learns to follow instructions, but above all experiences that his help is valued and that he can contribute to a successful result.
  • Role play makes it possible to slip into the skin of another person and take their point of view. With a well-equipped dressing-up box, a doll's house or a puppet theater, children are well equipped for such games.
  • Allow your child to interact with their peers. This also applies to children who grow up with siblings. It is not the same whether you play in the sandpit with your little sister, who is still inferior in many things, or with a child of equal strength who does not want to give up the sand shovel.
  • Being able to occupy yourself for a certain amount of time is an important skill. Part of social development is that you don't have to be constantly entertained by others, but also find a way out of boredom yourself.
  • Children have to learn to resolve conflicts. This is not possible if adults serve them a ready-to-cook solution as soon as the play area starts to get loud. Your task is not to clear the conflict out of the way, but to mediate between the brawlers and to accompany them in finding a solution themselves.
  • If your child has few friends and rarely meets to play, it doesn't necessarily mean they will be left out. Not everyone has an equally strong need for social contact. While some really thrive in large groups, others are happiest with two or three good friendships. If you notice that your child is suffering from the situation and would really like to be more connected, of course they need support. But if they are satisfied, maintain their friendships and generally get along well in social contexts, you don't have to worry.
  • When dealing with pets, children learn to take care of a living being's needs and to take responsibility.
  • For relationships to succeed, it is important to be able to deal appropriately with your own feelings and those of others. Read here how you can support your child in developing their emotional competence.

Last update: 25-11-19, TV