Is this girl interested in me?

How you can tell a girl likes you

25+ signs that can tell you she likes you

Sometimes it is difficult to find out if a woman is interested in you or not. Is she just being nice or is she trying to flirt with you? We'll help you find out.

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🙋‍♀️ How you can tell that a girl likes you

So there is this one girl who is amazingly fascinating to you, and you just can't figure her out. Is she just being nice or is she flirting with you? Things get really tricky when they even send you mixed signals. Not all of us are pick-up artists who have a sixth sense of whether or not a woman finds you hot. However, there are also women whom you just can't figure out. This guessing game of whether or not someone likes you can be extremely tiring. But there are very specific signs that can tell you whether a woman likes you or not. Of course, these are all just clues, so they don't have to be one hundred percent correct.

Everyone is different. But the more of these points apply, the more likely it is that she actually thinks you are great and maybe even wants more of you. And believe me: the more you deal with this, the better you will see through one day whether a woman thinks you are hot or not. But don't take all of this to heart and stop analyzing each of your gestures too much. This will only drive you crazy. Just let it go and enjoy the ride. Conquest is a dance that is meant to be fun.

This article is divided into several areas. At the beginning we deal with the drawings, then clarify whether they are just nice or whether there is real interest and then how to increase their interest.

Have fun with our article and good luck conquering your flame!

😉 Signs that she likes you

Don't be alarmed by the sheer number of points below. There are numerous signs that a woman may find you attractive. The catch is that some of the following signals may come true by chance, or you may be interpreting too much into their actions. However, if a great many of these apply to the girl you love, then chances are she has feelings for you. So go ahead, look around, but don't drive yourself crazy.

She likes to talk to you

This signal can be difficult to interpret. Some girls who are into you smile all over their faces when they talk to you, while others get eaten away by the nervousness and prefer to avoid the situation. But also pay attention to whether she tries to talk to you on her own or whether you are always the one who starts the conversation. Does she just stand around waiting to be spoken to? And when you do, does she smile and seem to be enjoying the conversation? Is it somehow different than usual?

She is near you

And by this I mean in situations where she doesn't need to be around you. Is she usually less than five meters away from you during a break at school, university or in the office? Without having made up your mind, do you see each other non-stop? Coincidentally, she's also at the concert or in the bar, which you mentioned in passing, being there on the weekend? Or is it something completely different, how you always meet in the kitchen in the office when you just wanted to get yourself a coffee? Depending on the situation and environment, this can mean a lot or nothing.

Of course, these could all be coincidences, but do they actually exist or does everything follow a higher plan? Well, now we're getting a little too philosophical. That said, it may very well indicate she's into you. To judge what it looks like with you, one would have to be there. However, it is only logical that people who find you attractive also seek your closeness. So women want to give you the chance to speak to them.

She laughs at your jokes

Even if you crack a joke that you hardly find funny yourself, is she the first to laugh? Almost every sentence you utter that doesn't seem serious makes them giggle? That's pretty much a clear indication that she likes you. However, there are also insecure people who always laugh or smile out of politeness, just so as not to hurt anyone.

Pay attention to their looks

Is she avoiding your eyes? Some girls find it uncomfortable to look their crush in the eye or to be caught looking at them. Others, in turn, consciously seek your gaze and then hold it upright. If she might even be smiling as you do this, that's a pretty clear signal that she's interested in you.

She notices your presence

Even if she changes her behavior in an inconspicuous manner as soon as she notices you walk in, that can tell a lot. Is she suddenly sitting more upright, moving more gracefully or obviously smiling at you and greeting you warmly? Then it can all mean that she loves you a little bit more than normal people.

She smiles at you in a heartfelt way

As mentioned in the last point, a smile that comes from the heart can mean a lot. But only if she smiles at you in an honest and warm way. So that she gets small wrinkles around her eyes. Either she is generally a very friendly person or you are her motivation for it.

She touches you

If she touches you frequently, especially casually, seeks your physical closeness, or even likes to hug you, then she probably likes you very much; unfortunately this can also be purely platonic. Again, that very much depends on how she touches you.

Pay attention to clues from friends

If their group of friends acts differently around you, or if one of them even asks you what you think of her, it may mean they know more. If her friends give you space to talk, for example, sit back and no longer take over the girl you are interested in, it can mean that she told them about you or speaks about you regularly, and that her circle of friends is her wants to help you conquer. When her friends giggle, smile, or smile around you, or watch the two of you interact, then they know more: She loves you.

She is waiting for others to go and talk to you

She wants to talk to you undisturbed and not be distracted by others? She matches you, only to have a relatively insignificant conversation? Perhaps all of this is much more subtle so that you hardly notice it, but this behavior shows interest.

She's starting to be interested in the same things as you

Are you into soccer, video games, anime, art, whatever? And she hardly paid any attention to one of these topics in the past, but now seems to be interested in it? Then it's pretty clear that she's only doing all of this to make you more exciting or to have topics of conversation with you.

She plays with her hair

Some consider this signal a myth, others swear by it. But what is it about? If she talks to you and, for example, twists a strand of hair between her fingers or literally wraps it around her finger, it can be a signal that she is either subconsciously flirting or it makes her nervous to talk to you. Most of the time people get nervous about things that are important to them and that they don't want to embarrass themselves about. But, as has already been said many times, people are different. Some ladies are generally shy and always finger comb their hair as soon as they talk to the opposite sex. So that can also be a pure tick. However, if you only see this phenomenon when she is talking to you and not to another guy, it may very well be an indication.

She's trying to get your attention

Women are usually much more sensitive than men when they want to arouse the interest of their crush. Often they try to make themselves extra pretty, wear a new, maybe even provocative outfit in your presence or she always adopts a completely different posture around you than usual. Does she stand there differently, especially in a sexy way ? You probably know which attractive poses I mean: shoulders back, chest out, stomach in, buttocks emphasized. If she does something like this in your presence or during a conversation with you, she's almost certainly not averse to you.

Your posture is open to you

As mentioned in the previous point, your body language can reveal a lot. An open posture speaks of being comfortable around you. Crossed arms are more likely to signal the opposite of what you want, but they can also be a sign that she is listening with extreme concentration. If that is the case, however, you should usually be aware of it. If she doesn't know what to do with her hands while she is talking to you, and even holding an object and playing with it a little, it can also be a sign that you are important to her in some way. The direction in which your feet are pointing also reveals a lot. If they're aimed at you, that's a very good sign. If she crosses them while sitting across from you, or even crosses them under the chair, it could be a sign of nervousness. If they point away, for example in the direction of a door or another person, it can mean that they are just talking to you out of politeness and actually want to run away.

But there is also a very special case: If a person reflects the body language of another, then not only does the person reflecting find the person reflected, but also triggers sympathy in them. So observe your dream woman: If she copies your movements - you briefly touch your chin, she touches your chin; you drink, she begins to drink - then she pretty sure likes you, or at least isn't averse to you.

She's nervous around you

As mentioned before, nervousness that sets in as soon as you are around can mean that you are important to her. But how does that express itself, aside from the obvious? There are a few signs: If she touches her face a lot when she talks to you, often blinking, pressing her lips together or - as already mentioned - playing with her hair, this can be a sign of nervousness. That, in turn, can mean she's into you in a way. However, there are also people who are generally unsettled about speaking to the opposite sex. You probably know the lady better than I do, so you probably know if she's a nervous person in general or just seems a bit upset around you.

She interrupts conversations to speak to you

The title of this point is actually relatively self-explanatory. For example, if she is talking to friends, you are getting around and she then puts you in the center of her attention as soon as possible, it usually means that she likes you very much. So if she has a choice and then prefers to talk to you, that's a big plus for you.

She listens to you very carefully

She hangs on your lips and also remembers the things you told her? Then she definitely likes you.

She tries not to talk to other men around you

If she seems somehow ashamed if you walk in the room while she is talking to someone and the conversation breaks off as quickly as possible, it may mean that she doesn't want you to believe that she is interested in this man.

She pays attention to your reactions

For example, when she says something or tells a joke in a group of people, does she look at you to see your reaction? Then your opinion is very important to her, which usually also means that you are important to her. She wants to please you. However, if she belongs to the type of person who generally demands recognition and looks at everyone to gauge their reaction, then this point is irrelevant.

She writes to you all the time

But that can't mean anything if you know she's addicted to texting people and just needs the happiness of a new message. Some people just like attention. This is especially noticeable if she keeps making you wait a long time. But if she's also quick to respond to your messages and obviously appreciates talking to you, then she's pretty sure like you.

She writes you drunken messages

Actually self-explanatory: if she texts you while drunk, she thinks of you. Drunk people are often said to have their hearts on their sleeves. So if she even makes something like a confession of love, she's pretty sure about you; or, depending on the message you've written, just feels lonely.

She follows you on social media

And by that I don't mean the usual following on Instagram and Co. If she looks at each of your stories, maybe reacts to it again and again and likes almost every one of your new posts, then she really likes you or at least would be not averse to you. But if she's one of those would-be influencers and just likes everything to get attention, then that means practically nothing to you.

She hints at being single or asks about your relationship status

No matter how she does it, but when she talks about not being in steady hands in your presence, or when she asks you whether you have a girlfriend or not, it can be very significant - especially if she asks you too why you don't have one. However, if the former is the case and she keeps asking about one of your friends, it could just as well mean that she's actually been keeping an eye on someone else she's trying to reach through you.

She compliments you, especially if you look good

Got a new hairstyle and she's the first person to comment on it positively? Have you dressed specially and she has to express her pleasure? Then the cards are good that she's into you. But it could also be pure politeness. However, if you haven't really changed anything and she suddenly sees you differently, things could be just fine for you.

She goes out of her way to hang out with you

As I said before, women like to be more subtle. Maybe you don't even notice the stones she's putting out of the way to ingratiate herself with you. So if, for example, you ask your WhatsApp group of friends whether someone wants to do something today and she answers immediately, she'll at least like to spend time with you. And if you even know that she actually had other plans and that she's canceling them for you, she's pretty sure on you.

It opens up to you

When a person opens up to you and talks about their problems, it means that they trust you. However, this can also be an indication that you have slipped into the friend zone or are currently on the best way there.

She is planning something for you in the future

If you are talking about any activity and she immediately says that you have to do this together, she may unconsciously see you by her side. If this happens all the time and you already have a proper list of things to do, she either sees you as her very best friend to do anything with, or she loves you.

She teases you amicably

Well, that depends on the kind of person she is. If she's a bubbly person who does this to everyone he likes, then at least your flame is comfortable with you. However, if she's a little shy and dares to come out more and more around you and just starts to tease you, then she definitely likes you.

😵 Is she just being nice or is she interested?

So you have rummaged through our points and are not really sure whether she is just nice, likes you in a friendly way or is really interested? Finding this out is an even more difficult thing that probably no one but your queen of hearts can tell you one hundred percent. Does she only react when you get in touch? Or does she report by herself because she wants to do something with you and doesn't just need you to pack your furniture? If many of the above apply, then most likely she is not only nice but also interested in you. Get it, tiger.

But there are also a lot of manipulative people in this world, so don't let yourself be used for any sick games. There are, for example, many women who know about their advantages and also use them to their advantage. Some only flirt because they love the positive feedback and want to determine their market value, so to speak, without being really interested in you.If nothing looks out for you, then best disappear and leave the lady out in the rain. Do not let yourself be exploited.

How do you find out now, however, whether there is more possible between the two of you? The only guarantee you will find out is this: Take the first step. Quit your brain wrenching and ask her out on a date, break the door into the house and tell her you're interested in her. Although there are now more and more women who are taking the first step, unfortunately a lot is still very conservative these days and most women expect men to come up to them. You dare. A rebuff hurts less than you think. However, if most of the above apply, then you will definitely succeed.

But note the following points:

  • As I said, don't wait to be spoken to or for her to take the first step. Just do it. Ask her out on a date. Eyes shut and go for it. You can do it!
  • Don't push yourself. If you've misinterpreted her intentions and still don't bite her, let her go. No means no.
  • Don't hold it against her for a rebuff and be a good loser. Cheer up: beautiful women are a dime a dozen.
  • If she's in a relationship, you'd better let it go. Don't worry about bad blood. Even if she is dissatisfied with her partner, don't push yourself between them. When a relationship begins with an ex-boyfriend's jealousy drama, it can get really tedious.
  • If she sent you to the friend zone, so you thought there was more, but she only sees you as a friend, you have to weigh up whether friendship is enough for you. Never assume that you will leave the friend zone through loving gestures or the like. to get out again. If you actually want her as your partner, tell her that. If she can't imagine that, only sees you as a friend and pure friendship is not enough for you, then be man enough to set sail and move on. Otherwise it would only hurt you to see her with another guy, maybe even another friend.

😏 Increase your interest

Connie Francis already said it: Love is a strange game. So you now want to increase the interest of your lady of the heart in you, because you are either still not sure whether she is into you, or you just want to really heat up the fire. Of course, if you follow this advice, there is no guarantee that it will fall around your neck afterward, but it certainly won't reduce your chances.


Just about every woman likes guys who make her laugh. Just make sure not to play their clown, just prove that you don't take life too seriously and that you have fun with it.

Pay attention to your body language

As already mentioned in the tips above, body language is extremely important in love (actually in all of life). Get used to an upright posture, that is: shoulders back (not too wide), chest out, stomach in. All of this shouldn't seem too stiff. This can be exhausting at first as your muscles aren't used to it, but will feel natural over time and also give you more confidence. Don't look at the ground, look straight ahead. Assume a dominant posture, especially when you are standing. The legs should be shoulder width apart, both equally loaded. And take your hands out of your pockets, especially when you're talking to her. And as I said above: If you subtly mirror her gestures, it can also increase her sympathy for you.

Be active

Do some exercise and watch your diet. And even if it's just a moderate workout before your daily shower, it can make a big difference in the long run. Don't stuff yourself with fast food either, but eat a balanced diet. It is well known that a healthy mind lives in a healthy body. Every now and then you can of course treat yourself to something, but it shouldn't degenerate into a daily treat. From the mouth of a lazy guy like me, it all sounds a bit hypocritical, but even I, who sit in front of the PC for hours every day and write, make sure that I exercise regularly. I walk at least half an hour a day, do push-ups and squats before taking a shower in the morning, and eat reasonably healthy. You don't have to overdo it, but the little things make all the difference.

Other women

This advice may sound a bit contradictory, but it usually helps enormously. Meet or surround yourself with other women. Desired men are desirable men. While many guys are put off when the number of competitors is high, it is usually the other way around with the opposite sex. It's like online reviews: if an item has umpteen reviews and is bought frequently, then there is surely something to it - you don't think twice about it and grab it. You don't even have to flirt or date them if you think you're going to offend the girl you're into. But she will at least think her part and believe that you are a good catch.

Live an exciting life

That sounds like really bad advice. How can you lead an exciting life when your own is boring as hell? You sit in the office for eight hours a day or more and are totally exhausted afterwards. You don't experience anything, do you? Not correct. Go through life with open eyes, have fun at work or at school, collect great stories. Even there, there is certainly a lot going on. You don't have to go skydiving or travel every week; in principle, you don't have to do anything too fancy. It is enough for you to do things, pursue a passion, try new things, etc. If you don't have all of that, it's time to change that. You've always wanted to try one or the other, but it was always outside of your comfort zone. Move out! Pick something and deal with it for a long time until you are passable at it. Don't give up too soon! As sorry as I am, very few people like couch potatoes who only watch TV or gamble in their free time. Don't be afraid to go out on your own either. You may be unfamiliar with this at first and may scare you, but over time it will also increase your self-confidence. At some point it gives you the kick that you can try out new things all by yourself! For example, go around the houses alone, go to clubs that interest you, but your friends find it boring. Be open and approach people. There is so much you can do. You dare.

Make the best of yourself

Very few of us have what it takes to become a model or, in Hollywood, an actor. But that doesn't mean that you have to let yourself go. Dress up, get a new haircut, new clothes and, above all, one thing: more self-confidence. If you're shy and have no idea how to become more confident, Google will be happy to help. There are countless exercises online. And take care of your hygiene. Take a shower regularly (at least once a day), put on fresh clothes every day, etc. But it doesn't stop with your looks: educate yourself, learn a new language, whatever. The sky is the limit. Just don't go crazy with this self-improvement craze and have fun doing it.

Don't pretend, be yourself

If you are now wondering whether this advice does not contradict the previous one, then I will say in no uncertain terms: no. Your personality and interests have nothing to do with whether you are more confident or lead a more exciting life. You just can't pretend you're someone else. You want her to fall in love with you, not the guy you'd like to be. Stand by the things you like, your strengths, but also your weaknesses. Just because you become more confident or make more of yourself doesn't change the basic person you are.

Be polite

Give her a friendly smile when you talk to her. Make eye contact, but don't stare at her like a psychopath. Just be someone you like to be around. Be positive and laugh. Life is too short to deal with negatives anyway. But also be kind to other people. But don't crawl up her butt - no matter how beautiful it is!

Make a note of what she says and listen carefully

Few things are as embarrassing as not remembering what she told you. Unfortunately, we are not all gifted with outstanding memories or drift away all the time (unfortunately I also count myself on that), but that just means that we then have to work harder. Otherwise, you will make her feel like you don't care about her. It's a pretty big compliment to someone when you memorize the things you've been told.

Treat her like a good friend and don't put her on a pedestal

This is arguably the most important piece of advice on this whole list. If you shower her with compliments, gifts, etc., you not only crush her, but you also make her want to buy her and not play in her league. With a lot of bad luck, this will only throw you into the friend zone. Then she might use you as a balm for the soul, but she has a crush on completely different guys. Never put a person on a pedestal, especially if you want something from them. If you treat her like an extremely good friend and just have fun with her, you not only take a lot of pressure off yourself, but you also show her that you are on an equal footing.

Tease them amicably

What loves teasing himself. This saying doesn't exist for free. Tearing her up in a loving way every now and then can be quite fueling for her feelings. Should she get on this train and do the same, then that is a very good sign. Just don't overdo it.

Don't put them down

As already mentioned in the previous tip, it is often very beneficial to tease the lady of your heart a little. As soon as you get mean, however, you will soon be able to say goodbye to her. See them as equals, as someone who is on an equal footing. And there is nothing poorer than people who put others down just to feel better. Unfortunately there are many who do this unconsciously. So be careful not to fool around on their shortcomings.

Talk to her more often and have great conversations

By that I mean completely harmless conversations. Ask how the weekend was, ask follow-up questions, open up funny topics, listen carefully. If you're the kind of person people enjoy chatting with, then chances are you're also someone people enjoy hanging out with. If you need some help, here are some great articles for you:

✍️ August 7, 2020

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