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"Travel alone? Nothing for me! ”- 4 prejudices about traveling alone

When I report that I am traveling alone, I keep hearing: "Travel alone? I couldnt do that.“I keep asking myself why not. It's not like I, or any of the other solo travelers I meet, do great things when we're out and about. We just do it without thinking too much. Still hold up so far 4 prejudices about traveling alonewhich some people shy away from.




1) Prejudices about traveling alone: ​​"I can't do it alone"


The distrust of oneself and of others.


Of course you can think of traveling alone. But then really do that? No thanks.

<>How am I supposed to find my way in this strange country? Maybe without the internet, without speaking the other's language?

With buses that don't go according to plan, if there are any plans - or buses. And above all without booking anything beforehand? What if I suddenly can't find a hotel? And anyway it's far too exhausting to have to look for one on site first. That will definitely go in your pants!

But most of all - what if something happens?


Where do all these thoughts come from?

The foreign really makes us so scared? I grew up with the attitude that a person is first of all good until serious circumstances may have a negative impact on them. We live in a time in which we meet numerous nationalities, cultures and religions on the street, live in the same house with them, go to the same school, and be friends with them.

Still, facing it all by yourself in another country suddenly leaves you with doubts.

Somehow we are filled with mistrust. Towards “the others” and towards ourselves. I would go even further: towards life.


We don't dare to trust that people are good to us. We don't dare to trust life that it will fix everything. And we don't trust that we ourselves have enough skills, strength and courage to master difficult situations without support. And the experience of realizing exactly that is breathtaking.


Incidentally, something that I don't come across when I start my trip, but every time I start to feel very comfortable in a place during the trip and then move on. A queasy feeling arises every time - because I expect Unknown. Maybe I won't meet nice people in the next hostel. Maybe I'll miss the bus and only then arrive in the dark, afraid of not finding my way. Maybe I won't like the next town or the weather there will be much worse.

I believe that no single traveler is filmed with discomfort or even fears. Whether it is from insects, dirt, diseases, the dark or just this quiet Fear of the unknown is.

But why are we breaking Solo travelers nevertheless, and move out into the world, and why do we even do that over and over again?

Perhaps we have been lucky enough to find out that there is always a place to sleep somewhere. That if the bus just doesn't want to come, a car stops and the crew offers to take you with them. That you always arrive somehow, or somewhere, even if the destination wasn't planned at all and suddenly you don't want to leave. Maybe we have learned that there are always people who help you to sort out everything. And that if something goes badly in our pants, we won't break it either. Instead we grow on it.



2) Prejudices about traveling alone: ​​"That's boring"


We have forgotten how to be alone with ourselves and in the moment


In a time when everything is moving fast, in which we are showered with technology and knowledge and possibilities, in which we have to strive for ever higher goals, relationships are becoming more short-lived, education more demanding, in which we are constantly available and constantly communicate without being personally to stand in front of each other, in such a time it is no longer about to linger in a moment.

We always have to go straight to the next one.

At some point it started that silence seems strange to us. That we turn on the television when we get home so that we have noise around us. That it even works when we are talking on the phone, studying, or reading. We are also no longer really used to looking at something for a long time. Instead, we quickly dig out the camera or cell phone and take a picture of it. We cover up natural smells with perfumes, and fast food is faster and more practical than cooking something fresh yourself.

We numb our senses.

I believe that society is slowly jolting again, there is a countermovement, but many are still deeply involved. Me too.

For many, being alone means boredom, desolation, maybe even shame. Being alone and just for yourself is no longer socially acceptable these days.

And then we would also have the problem of traveling alone:

You will Times to have, there you are alone. Perhaps you will have times when the internet doesn't work and you will find that your cell phone doesn't have much to offer you without internet. There will be times when you will see couples laughing leave the hostel to go out to eat and you will stay behind and you may think of the loved one who is sitting at home and who you miss. You will eat alone, wander the city alone, get into taxis alone and look at breathtaking views.

There will be times when you will be sitting in overcrowded buses or stuck in traffic jams without being able to leave. There will be times when your cell phone cards fail and you can suddenly no longer stubbornly follow directions and when heavy rain locks you in the hotel for a whole day. Or your cell phone fails completely and you can't even spend the time chatting or Facebook.


Sooner or later you will be a solo traveler Have to take the moment as it is. And then you can only choose whether you want to complain about it and keep it in bad memories or whether you want to use it, absorb it with your senses and enjoy it. You will not get past yourself while traveling, and you will have to perceive yourself as you are too.

There will be times when you are alone with yourself. If you are lucky you will your own good friend.


And then you will quickly notice that you are traveling alone Not boring at all is, on the contrary: it is waiting countless adventures on you, whom you would never have seen in company. Simply because you suddenly become open to them, set yourself free, let yourself drift.



3) Prejudices about traveling alone: ​​"Then I'm all alone"


Traveling alone doesn't mean being alone.


I still remember how, before my four-month trip, the first real trip I went alone, I thought I would spend days alone in no man's land.

Think about myself, relax, collect energy.

In addition, there was a fear that I would have no other choice: What if I just stayed in the hostels never get to know anyone would? What if I became someone who would always be alone when traveling? How many other travelers have you ever met?

The good news is: countless!

The possibly bad thing is you might being alone much less often than you would like.

Even if you don't go for it, people will approach you. Travelers in the hostel, locals on the street, on the bus you will sit next to someone who tells you about their life at home, you will meet world travelers, couples, groups, the old shopkeeper next door and the young schoolgirl who is with you on the train moves.

The more often you travel alone, the more you will choose for yourself whether you want contact or not. Whether you want to join others for dinner or prefer to eat out alone. Whether you spontaneously decide to go to the next neighboring town because you are simply interested in it, or whether you prefer to accompany a group of hikers from the hostel to the nearby mountain peak. Of course there are countries where you can do more Meet travelers than in others. For that are perhaps the latter in the latter Native much more cordial and open. And fewer travelers in the country can even lead to the fact that you quickly come together to form a community and take the same route.>


I believe that travelers - especially backpackers - more than any other group open-minded, sociable and sociable are. That it doesn't matter where you're from, what you do or how old you are. At the end of the day you can still sit on the terrace with a beer and play cards.

Probably the most perverse prejudice about traveling alone is that you are constantly and compulsorily alone.



4) "It seems like I have no friends"


Above all, traveling alone does not mean being lonely.


Sure, I understand. Not only that you may not have someone standing by when you travel alone. You really feel lonely sometimes.

Because maybe there is no one you can talk to exchange experiences can. You neither share the wonderful sunset, nor the fight that you saw on the street. And then there will be a day here and there when you feel like the world is against you. Where people are unfriendly to you, your bus breaks down, your short-term discovered accommodation looks dreadful, the night is much too cold and you realize before you go to bed that you have lost your credit card.

> And then there is nobody to catch you with it.

At least that's what you think.

Because your friends are still sitting at home. They are still there, even if you are hundreds of kilometers apart. Wouldn't you also call them at home if you were feeling bad? Wouldn't you also write them a message if you were upset, or send them a picture of the wonderful sunset if you were to experience the same thing at home?

I understand that Share something enriching gives you security here and there or can take your frustration away.

And sometimes other people you have just met may not be able to do on your trip what your friends and family back home would in the same situations.

However, the solution is within reach, and it is even getting easier and easier: Pick up the cell phone and call. Write your message, send your photo, leave a voice message. Use video telephony, Skype, write letters or postcards and send them off the next day.


But what about the others? Those who see you sitting alone in a café or in a restaurant. The ones who see you strolling across the street alone, probably wondering if you have no friends. It is embarrassing, or not?


No it is not. And very few will ask that. I'll say it honestly: you might get a look of pity one day. But that's not the masses.

The bulk of the locals are therefamiliar with tourism. Even if traveling alone is not at all common in their own culture, especially for women, they will be curious to hear why you are doing it. The masses are interested in you, or quite the opposite, doesn't care what you do and why. In the typical backpacker countries (South America, Asia), single travelers are a completely common sight.

And among travelers it doesn't matter how old you are, where you come from, what you do, whether you're married with children at home or single and let off steam, whether you travel a long time or just enjoy a short weekend getaway, all of you unite the traveling and the joy of it. Also, whether you travel alone or in a group does not leave any unanswered questions in the minds of other travelers.

In the years that I have already been traveling alone, I have always received encouragement from others on my travels. Nobody has ever asked me if I have no friends that I travel alone. It just doesn't happen.

Believe me: Traveling alone is much more normal than you might think.


Traveling alone doesn't mean you are lonely. Neither you should think that way, nor do others.

Traveling alone simply means that there is a lot to discover. And that you don't want to wait for someone else to have a vacation like you. Or that you can enjoy your own company. Or that you care about developing yourself.

There are quite a few reasons for traveling alone. And traveling alone may even make some statements about you. But there is absolutely no evidence that you are lonely or that you need to feel lonely.



Closing words


Travel alone is by far in this day and age no longer an exception. It is not always easy and not the right thing for everyone, and especially not the only real way to travel. Nonetheless, there are a few Prejudices about traveling alonethat often do not meet reality and possibly deny a nice experience. And if you know that, maybe you dare to go out on your own?


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Do you know these prejudices about traveling alone? Have you ever had it yourself? Would you disagree or partially agree with them today?

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